Today I run my own business from home, raise my kids on my own terms, own multiple homes, have six-figure investments, and I’m married to a man I’m disgustingly obsessed with.

Not long ago, I was a “lost cause” addict, then a single mom at the food bank every week, then a burnt-out social worker crying in her truck with the “dream life” on paper.

I spent nearly two decades in child protection, mental health, and disability services, watching good, hard-working people stay stuck no matter how much they tried.

I earned a degree in human behavior, and the Lieutenant Governor’s Award, studying why.

Then I lived it myself.

What finally changed everything wasn’t more effort. It was my identity. That’s where the Five Stages of Identity and the I Decided Method came from.

Now I help people who’ve done everything right create the life they actually want, without another course, another certificate, another coach’s blueprint, or another year living on repeat.

“It’s time to stop asking ‘How do I get there?’ and start asking

‘Who do I need to become?’”

This is what deciding looks like.